I was thinking today how much I hate the little saying 'no regrets'. Such a big thing to say in such a brief, flippant way. How can anybody have no regrets? There is nothing that you've done that you wish you hadn't?
I understand the idea of not getting bogged down in guilt or dwelling on past mistakes-- but surely regretting those past mistakes is important and normal too? If I have a brother, and I do something to hurt him, and then apologise and he forgives me, well yes, the issue is dealt with and the matter closed. But I still regret having hurt him in the first place. No regrets says, yeah I hurt you, but if i could go back I would still do it all over again. Seems pretty pathetic to me.
I don't know, am I making too big a deal out of a little saying? (Before you answer that, remember that you can't go back and say things differently..)
Huldra Forsvant (Theodor Kittelsen)
Huldra Forsvant (Theodor Kittelsen)
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I agree. 'No Regrets' is an arrogant and dumb thing to say.
I wonder if I'll regret this post once I've hit 'publish'?
Thanks for your comment, Simone-
Arrogant. That's the word I was looking for!
To be honest, I say things all the time that 10 minutes later I wish I could take back. Everyday there are not only regrets, but remorse... I confess and repent and do it all over again... I guess it just means that you are aware of your failures.
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That's right, and surley that's a good thing. Much better than thinking you have nothing to regret, when there is probably a trail of people you've left thinking otherwise..
That's cool you wrote about that. That saying has long bugged me too, but I've never took the time to clarify why and you just did., thanks :)
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