To put it simply, I am away from my home for pretty much all of the daylight hours of the working week
Now, on the other hand, E has a long week with the childers, and spends a lot of time busy at home. There are lots of outings and whatnot, but yeah, certainly some long hours under that same old roof, or in that yard. For different reasons to mine, her week can be long, and so she too is generally excited by Friday afternoon.
So then, you'd think it would all be fun and games from there. It's the start of the weekend and we're both happy about it, looking forward to the weekend, and the respite from routine it promises. But, often friction arises on the weekend, and it always takes me by surprise. I'm a slow learner, I guess.
But I think what it comes down to is our different expectations, and the fact that we are excited on Friday afternoon for pretty different reasons! E is like, 'yay, we can get out of the house and do things, and I can get some time to do the stuff I don't get a chance to do during the week'. And I'm like, 'yay, I can pull up the drawbridge and not leave the house, and potter around doing all those fun things I'm thinking about during the working week'.
Whether or not this seems like a petty issue, I think it's something to be mindful of. The weekend is an important time, because it's the one block of time where we are all together, and also the one block of time where we can factor in time out for each other. I guess it just has to be about compromise and communication. And I think for me it needs to be about being more selfless and giving, and aware of where my family are at, rather than thinking, tippity tops, now I have two sweet days to do whatever.
Has anyone else encountered this sort of a thing? What has worked, and what hasn't? I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.