This love that God gives, comes from God. God is love. Romans says that God pours out His love into our hearts, because of Jesus, through God the Holy Spirit.That's why the bible can command us in Ephesians 5, 'Husbands love your wives', Titus 2, 'Wives love your husbands'. If it was just a feeling, if it was just an affection, an infatuation, you couldn't command it. But if it is a gift of God to be shared with your spouse, it can be commanded. You say, 'well I don't feel loving'. Well, go to God- He'll give you love to share.
Love comes from God, through the christian, by the power of the Holy Spirit, to love the spouse.
This is from Mark Driscolls' latest talk from Song of Songs. I really appreciate the fact that love for my wife is not dependant on my feelings, on my sinful, hot and cold nature. If I ask God for that love, He gives it to me to share. And He gives it abundantly.
Last night we watched a program called Weddings- Where Are They Now or something. It showed several peoples' wedding day, and the lead up, and then checked in to see how things were going a few years down the track. Depressingly, couple after couple had separated or divorced. It's too difficult, we split up. The feelings died out, we split up. He cheated, we split up.
One woman who had divorced, said that she believed this was fate. What was meant to happen, happened. She was content now. I wonder how her child feels about fate, when he's being juggled back and forth by two distant parents?
Our feelings are fleeting, and we are sinful and selfish. Our spouses are sinful and selfish. How can marriage hold up and survive with only human love? The strength that comes from real, God-made love, that will see us through to the end is there for us. We only need to ask for it.
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I was reading a book on similar topic this morning. Let me share a wonderful quote from that book;-
"(God) can awake in man, towards Himself, a supernatural Appreciative love. This is of all gifts the most to be desired. Here, not in our natural loves, nor even in ethics, lies true centre of all human and angelic life. With this all things are possible."
AY
Cool quote, AY, thanks for sharing it.
That wedding show was depressing, wasn't it? Do you think that woman really had convinced herself that it was fate, or was their nagging doubt simmering away underneath?
I guess you can't assume too much and pychoannalyse someone from two minutes screen time.. BUT if I were to hazard a guess I would say she had come up with the 'fate' thing as a way of dealing with it and convincing herself it's ok. Also probably to push away the guilt you would feel towards your child.
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