'The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.' --Genesis 2:18'How many of you ladies feel like your husband is considerably different to you in a number of ways? Oftentimes those differences become points of conflict in the marriage. They should be points of vitality.
If I need a helper who is suited to help me, then it would make sense that she would be strong where I am weak. If she's good at what I'm good at, she's not very helpful. I don't need help in my strength, I need help where I'm blind, where I'm negligent, where I'm in lack.' (Mark Driscoll)
The more I think about it, the more I realise how much my wife compliments me, and strengthens me where I am weak. There are some considerable differences between us, but these have been so beneficial.
For example, I am more inclined to joke about things and people, sometimes to the point where I am mocking or being critical. To some extant I think this is okay, and just the way I've been made, but also I think it is something that needs to be kept in check, and my wife helps me do that.
She is a very gentle, uncritical person, rarely with a bad word to say about anyone, and these traits in her are just what is needed to reign me in. She gently rebukes me, and I am very thankful for that. Rather than saying, 'oh, you don't understand me, we are too different', I should rejoice that we are different.
How great that God made her the way He did, and led me to her --my suitable helper.
3 comments:
Ben, that's so sweet! What a nice post :) I'm going to show my husband right now!
Amen, Ben! The 'you don't understand me' line is so defensive and unhelpful. I'm trying to avoid it when Ji Hyun says something to me.
Thanks Chris:)
Yeah, true, Hayden. That defensiveness only ends up hurting ourselves.
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