Huldra Forsvant (Theodor Kittelsen)

Huldra Forsvant (Theodor Kittelsen)
Huldra Forsvant (Theodor Kittelsen)

Monday, March 30, 2009

Playground Bully

Worryingly, Little e has become quite a scratcher and a pincher, and to our dismay has been a bit of a playground bully.

I don't mind so much her scratching me in the face, because it just makes me look tough(er than I already am) and battle-scarred. But when she grabs the faces of poor unsuspecting strangers, it is worrying.

On Saturday I took her to a playground, and she was having a bit of a chat with some kid, when out of nowhere little e just grabbed the kids face. Just like that. The kid goes 'Maaamaaaaa???!!', and I rushed in and pried the little talons loose. After much embarrassment and many apologies we got it sorted.

The strange thing is that she doesn't seem to do it out of anger or spite, but more as a testing of her power, or a curiosity: 'I wonder what will happen if I do this?' There's no malice on her face when she does it, but when she gets the kid crying you see a bit of a surprised 'wow, I truly am all powerful and can crush anyone who enters my realm of chaos' expression appear.

It is genuinely worrying though, and we don't know how to knock this thing on the head.


Stuart Heath said...

I've found the Adeneys very helpful for parenting advice :)

Ben McLaughlin said...

yeah, they do have lots of good stuff to say--maybe I'll pick their brains

Simone R. said...

Unless you've had a hair-puller or biter or hitter or scratcher or pincher it's easy to feel high and mighty when other people's toddlers do such things to your precious child...

My friend's little girl went off to playgroup the other day saying to herself "Playgroup. Me no bite baby." The previous weeks had not been good and she had developed quite a reputation for herself.

Most kids move through the stage eventually.

Having a younger sibling will help. She'll have practice in being gentle day-in, day-out and will learn pretty fast that being rough with other kids has bad consequences for her.

Don't stress.

Ben McLaughlin said...

Thanks, Simone. I appreciate getting advice from parents who've been thru it all already.